Dear Girl,

You say you are confused now that he said he likes you. You couldn’t turn him down easy as you were afraid that it would break his heart. It made you feel guilty that saying no would ruin your friendship. Better yet, you say it’s weird that you are not completely sure if it is what you want. You turn to your friend and ask her what to do, ask her what you should tell him. But is it her place to tell you ? Will you be able to take her advice with a straight head and turn him down? It is boring to live a life when you are not infatuated with something. You feel as if your life is mundane. And then someone turns up throws several flattering lines, tries to win you over with all kinds of pick up lines and quoting songs you like. All of a sudden you feel good. At last someone pays attention to everything about you. You feel beautiful and most of all you feel a sense of being wanted. Once he confronts you, you are left to wonder if you wanted something more in life. You feel the urge to try new things in life. You are willing to alter your standards and take everything about him in if time allows. You want to get to know him better because you want to give him a chance to prove that you can rely on him. You feel as if, being independent  and single is quite boring. You get tired of just hanging around with your  girlfriends. You see the relationship of one of your best friends and you feel like you want something like that. And in the urge to get there, to feel it you just change the course of your journey and try to get to know a stranger better. But in love their should not be any confusion. It is either you say yes when he asks you out or say no. Because you feel it. You feel if you want to be with that guy or not in a moment. And always remember that it is your decision to make. Don’t decide for his sake. You’ve lived with all your innuendos for years and you are the only person who knows yourself the best. And not even your closest friends can read yourself for you. It is natural to fall for someone and natural to like someone. Falling and liking are not the same. They are two different extremes which people confuse as one. And that is fatal. Because love, is unconditional and uncompromising. You would not want to change anything about that person if you really like him. And if you are sure of yourself, and know that this is what you want, there is nothing wrong with flirting with him and slowly getting to know him your own way. It would be spontaneous as long as you don’t speed anything up. Let nature play its course. Let yourself grow with the feeling. But if you don’t see the possibilities of yourself being with a guy, just let him know plainly. It does not label you as a “heart breaker” but you will avoid a further more fatal heart break by hurting him a little. It would sting a bit, but it won’t be anything that will last. Do not ever consider hiding your feelings because you think it is hurtful, by doing that you are depriving yourself and the person of the truth. It is the worst kind of betrayal you can incur upon yourself. So just sit down. Listen to your favourite song. Think for a while what you actually want, don’t say that you are too confused to think. The answer to your confusion lies within you, you must only allow it to surface. Think about your goals , dreams , everything and anything you’ve ever wanted. Think if it is the time. Think if this is what you want. If the answer is yes. Follow you heart. Work with your heart. And for your heart. Because you of all people will never let yourself down. 

 

Me.  

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